Assalamualaikum
and hi.
Dear
readers,
I have been
saving many drafts in my blog. Honestly,
I do not know what to write anymore until, one night and tonight a question hit
me up.
Why am I so
insecure?
I tried to
remember. Since when did I start to have insecurities? Yes, you read it well. I
have more than insecurity.
Then, I
started to puzzle up my journey. From day one, I learnt about living my life
until how I live in my current life.
You see, I
always been ‘the last option’ to other people.
To pair up
for assignments
To be one
of the practicum mates
To be in
the event
The lists
go on.
I think
those are the reasons why I chose to be a loner. Therefore, it will not hurt
that much. I am a loner.
I honestly
do not blame people for having or making me as their last option.
I blamed
myself for not learning to live my life fully.
However, I disagree
with the way they had treated me in the past.
I am
different.
They judged
me, so bad. The worst, they were judging me behind my back without guiding me
to the right path.
When I
started my journey to lose my weight, (Alhamdulillah from almost 100 kg, I was
able to reach 62 kg) it is all about to gain my confidence. Do not get me
wrong, I had no intention to look or to be pretty. I am ugly. How can I be a
pretty woman when my mind set that I was ugly? Daaaaa…..
Yeah, I
heard that so many times from other people that I am ugly.
People made
a lot of fun to me.
They
thought I knew nothing about it.
Their
words, I will not forget.
How they
making memes, parody just to make their life happier.
To cut it
short, I had conversations with my dear juniors.
They met me
when I finally able to boost up my confidence level.
I was physically
and mentally healthy.
One of my
juniors started to speak up about her insecurity when all I see is beauty. She
is intelligent, soft spoken and good in sports (You owe me a homemade chocolate
cake!)
Another
junior of mine, she is perfect in every aspect but the truth she is hiding her
struggle in healing her dear self (I need a new poem, okay?)
I started
to share about my past with them. Telling them the story, it felt like
yesterday.
I feel hurt.
It is not
healing even when I reached my goals.
Most of the
time, I told myself that I am okay. I am amazing.
The truth
is, that doubt, the insecurities had shut everything down.
I claimed
myself as a strong woman. I was able to
go through the stages alone.
But I am
not.
I am not
that strong. I force myself to be strong or at least to portray that I am even
when I am at the lowest point of my life.
To the people
who once rejected me as a friend, partner and mates, I thank you for not making me strong; but to make me learn how to be a good person.
I may have
insecurities. I believe that I am not beautiful in your eyes.
However, I
do believe that I finally have such a beautiful life without you people.
I have
learnt to speak better with everyone regardless gender.
I have
learnt to prioritize health before beauty.
I have
learnt to speak kind words, at least.
I have
learnt that wound last forever.
You may think
what you did have changed me into a new person.
Thanks to
you, I met the best and right people to guide me in becoming the new me.
Thanks to
you, now I finally met people who could accept me for me (even when I am weird
and different).
Last but
not least,
Thank you
and forever, I do not want to be like you, hurting others without thinking what you did may cause a life-time wound.